Hi! I’m Michelle Gay and I help women stop feeling like the victims of their inner critic and build the confidence to live the meaningful lives they yearn for. 

You've probably tried self-help books, podcasts, dieting, exercising, decluttering, organizing...you name it - but haven't found the solution to finally feel like you have enough, and are enough.

I’m thrilled you’re here because it means

you know that mean voice is NOT THE BOSS OF YOU!!

Which isn’t to say it’s easy. Many women go their whole lives listening to a non-stop narration of every “imperfection” — because that inner critic is hard to shake.

Good enough. 

Smart enough. 

Attractive enough. 

Educated enough. 

Knowledgeable enough. 

Confident enough. 

Tidy enough. 

Productive enough. 

Busy enough. 

Something inside you says that you need to do more, be more, learn more, buy more — and only then will you allow yourself to feel okay.

But, those things don’t work — and those patterns lead to cycles of exhaustion and burnout.

I know, because I’ve been down that road myself.

In 2018...

I was struggling with feeling overweight, overwhelmed and stuck and like it was my fault that I couldn’t get my life together. I was so exhausted from trying to “fix” my life through dieting, exercising and decluttering that I didn’t have the energy to fight the negative self-talk that swirled constantly in my brain.

Journal entry circa 2018:

Fat. Again. Failure at staying on track with anything - eating well, laundry, my room, basement, paperwork, money. Disconnected because all I can manage to find the energy for is 

1) going to work to make sure we have bare minimum 

2) exercise (so I don’t get fatter or go crazier) 

3) staying engaged with the kids so I don’t fail them like I’ve failed myself and Jon….

I am so unmotivated and blank. Everything is so hard.

I knew I “should” be happy, but I just couldn’t be. I remember how guilty I felt for not being able to be happy. And I was so tired the whole time, all I wanted to do was sleep.

Here's What I Found

If I truly wanted to change and stop repeating the same patterns over and over, I had to change from the inside and I needed help to do it. 

On that journey, I discovered the way to finally conquer that critical voice in your head and develop the confidence to create the life you long to live. 

Here’s the key: The reason why those self-help books, podcasts, motivational videos, exercise plans, diets, and Marie-Kondo cleaning sprees don’t work are because they only address the surface issues, and usually don’t include the support or guidance we need to create real change. 

What you really need to silence that inner critic starts with changing your core belief:

You have to believe you are worthy of the change you’re longing for.

This is much harder than it sounds, because you have to untangle a lifetime of conditioning — from your family, from society, and especially from our dominant culture that says middle aged women are past their Best By date.

Until you learn to recognize your worth and your value as a human being, you won’t feel deserving of what you want, and you won’t be able to overcome your resistance to creating change. To do this, we need to cultivate a practice of self-compassion, we must be willing to tune into how we truly feel about ourselves (the good, the bad, the ugly), and grow a rich inner resource of love and empathy for ourselves.

That is the foundational work (which goal-oriented programs miss) that makes any and every change possible. This is what I now help my clients do.

Why work with me

My approach doesn’t begin with goals — it begins with building the foundations: Feeling into who you long to be and co-creating that self with you as you develop the capacities to grow into it. You will recognize your worth and feel it in your bones. You will develop self-compassion for all of the past and present versions of you. And you will acquire the skills to manage and modify your thoughts and behaviors, until you are completely aligned with the person you long to be.

Leaving your inner critic behind you in the dust. 

My happy ending (and maybe yours too!)

Fast forward to now and I've climbed up and out of that soul-sucking hole I was in.

My self-confidence is unshakeable - even when my weight fluctuates (let’s face it, chocolate is always on the menu…and sometimes I may indulge a little too often)

I’m free from being controlled by my inner critic.

I live a life of meaning and purpose - and it feels SO good!

And I’ve grown into the person I’ve always wanted to be.

Are you ready to show your Inner Critic the door?

Book a free 30 minute consultation call using the link above, 

or contact me here and tell me what your inner critic is up to! 

A little about me, personally

• I’m a Certified Integral Professional Coach™ through Integral Coaching Canada and worked a 30 year career in nursing. Which means I have a lot of practice with empathy, non-judgement, and helping people’s hearts and souls feel safe.

• I'm an Enneagram 9 (The Peacemaker) - inner peace and harmony is literally a 9’s job.

• I'm terrible at parking a car. 

• Harry Styles is my celebrity idol - mostly because he is talented, humble, kind and generous…but I'm a sucker for his killer smile!!

And one more thing — something I wish I could have told myself 40 years ago:

You don’t need to be perfect to be confident. 

Perfection is not a prerequisite to be ‘good enough’. 

Real confidence transcends the need for everything to be perfect. 

It doesn’t matter how many gray hairs or wrinkles you spot in the mirror. It doesn’t depend on hiding cellulite. 

It comes from the kind of unshakable sense of self that comes from accepting and loving who you are.

And if that inner voice is telling you “it’s too late,” “you’re too fat”, “you’re too old,” “you don’t deserve what you want,” I’m here to tell you that inner voice is flat out wrong. 

Tired of that inner voice running the show?

Here’s how we can work together